Tilley is the only one who isn't fond of thunder but now she seems okay with it being that she is losing her hearing, a nice benefit of aging. But this one could not be silenced; this was one of the biggest booms that I have heard. I nearly jumped out of my skin myself; it made me immediately head for cover. And as I ran in I realized that all the dogs were up; standing up on the bed, startled. Luke was obviously the most concerned; he had his ears plastered back and his eyes were in fear mode. "Say nothing," I immediately told my husband. It is hard; our human reaction is to comfort, but if we comfort we fuel the fear. I know that many of you think that your dog needs comforting when they are afraid; but what they really need is guidance.
Luke looks for eye contact; he wants to know how we feel about this, you can see him doing it. So when we act like nothing just happened or what has just happened is amazingly great; he immediately calms. If you have a dog that is already fearful it may take a while; many repetitions of calm guidance from you and the family. It doesn't change overnight but if you give off the right messages you can see it start to work immediately. I reacted to the thunder because I was startled myself; this fueled Luke's reaction. But; as soon as I saw that he was indeed having a fearful reaction I shut it down; I stopped talking immediately and made a point of saying how cool the next one was. He kept an eye on the situation but was no longer fearful.
It can take some bigtime control not to react; or to react in a way that does not come naturally. But it's worth the effort; a dog who has a fear response can become so bad that the reaction itself becomes a danger to the dog. So again; chill is the name of the game.
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