Stranger = a person with whom you have no personal acquaintance.  A newcomer.

A stranger is a stranger for our dogs and as such are given the stranger treatment.  That treatment will vary vastly depending on the dog.  Many dogs treat strangers as if they are long lost family members; others are cordial but that's as far as it goes and then there are dogs who treat strangers as strangers.  We drill the message "don't talk to strangers," into our children's heads as youngsters; teaching them that you don't talk to people who you do not know.  But with our dogs we expect them to welcome strangers with open arms or legs as it is.  What's the deal?

We all want friendly dogs; we want everyone to think that our dogs are just the best dogs right?  Even the best of dogs reserve the right to pass judgement on those who they do not know.  In the beginning, way back when our dogs lived in wolf packs there was no such thing as a good stranger.  Strangers meant something bad; an invading member of rival pack perhaps or a wolf out for no good.  There were  no friendly strangers and all were dealt with by a fiercely united pack.

So what if you have a dog that is not so friendly with strangers?  You help them first to realize that strangers are not a bad thing.  Do not have strangers approach your dog if they don't want to be approached; this is the first step for your dog to realize that strangers are not out for them.  No eye contact, touching or talking to your dog.  Once your dog sees that strangers are not solely interested in them; things start to lighten up.  From there you can move to strangers come bearing gifts.  Still no eye contact, just treats offered from an open hand that is not reaching out.

When you meet a dog or enter into someone's home that has a dog you should remain neutral.  The dog will react how they will react and it is this that you need to gauge your greeting.  As much as I love dogs I do not greet dogs when I enter a home either for a shoot or training.  I watch the dog without looking at them and adjust my behavior accordingly.  Even dogs that are of guarding or aggressive nature will adjust their behavior to more appropriate if you are neutral.

One of the biggest mistakes that humans make when they meet dogs is to pet them; often even lavishing attention on them.  Depending on who is on the receiving end of this attention can send a situation in a very wrong direction.  Luke use to be a very competitive guy; he loved to intimidate when at all possible.  When someone came into our home and started petting immediately; he took that as a sign of weakness.  After all these strangers were paying Luke (the king) lavish attention, and they didn't even know him.  This to a dog means that they are conceding his status over them.  Once these lowly newcomers then attempted to take matters into their own hands by walking into our house; Luke found it necessary to remind them who he was and who's house this was.  The people were always shocked  "I was just petting him," they would state with a puzzled face searching for answers.  Ah yes; the human who does not understand canine.

Watch your dog interacting with strangers; their behavior will give you all the clues as far as what needs working on.   It may be a fear based behavior which typically escalates only when the human persists in a greeting.  There are dogs who will never be interested in meeting strangers; that is fine as well, they are good with their pack and don't need anyone else in their life.  Listen and watch; our dogs really do give us all we need as far as the information that we need.


  1. Hi Y'all,

    Good advice.

    A group of us were having lunch at a friends. She had one of her two dogs closed in a storage room. After we ate she let the dog out and a couple of women were frightened when he barked at them when someone reached to pat him.

    The owner was about to put the dog back in the storage room when I suggest we all ignore the dog and walk away into the living room. I suggested they sit and carry on their visit and not look at or touch the dog.

    The dog went off someplace and settled down, ignoring us in return.

    BrownDog's Human

  2. It amazes me how many people just assume its okay to try and pet a dog they dont even know. Our doberman Tanzeer is a nervous reactive dominant dog, not an easy dog to live with. He is very much like Luke when people come in and start petting him right away (Some people just dont want to listen when asked to ignore the dog). Our spoo Bella has no interest in other people and her behaviour is what I think of as neutral. She basically ignores them for a time and if they ignore her in return she will eventually bring them a ball so they can toss it for her. Once that is done she tolerates being petted by them. Should the person not ignore her and instead try petting her she will walk away or snap at them if they persist. I generally find it easier when dealing with strangers out in public to not allow anyone to pet the dogs. I dont find that I have too many problems when we are out walking, I have more problems with people that come to the house for the first time. I remember how easy it was when I had whippets, they love everyone, but then I look at my beautiful Bella and I know that she would give her life for me.


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